As all our thoughts and hearts reach out to the families in Connecticut, I would like to share with you the words of a true yogi and a very wise woman, Beryl Bender Birch. She posted this through her Facebook profile today:
All of us crying for this unimaginable loss. Nothing, nothing will help these parents get through this day!! Pain beyond anything that can be understood except by the experience itself. Helpless – all of us – to help. With Sandy – we could help. And now? Only can we work on ourselves. If these children are “our” children, which they are, then the violence must be “our” violence as well.
Where are the roots of violence? If we go deep won’t we find the roots of violence in the systems and structures WE have created? The truth is that violence begins with us. And it comes from our mistaken view of ourselves as separate. We have accepted violence, in our media, in our entertainment, in our children’s games, in our relationships with other countries, and other religions, and in our way of living altogether. We have to accept responsibility for our complicity and for how we cooperate and participate in the systems and thereby participate in the wars and the violence. Gun laws will help. But they are not the whole answer. Breathe in, breathe out.
We have to start with ourselves. Only through choosing love instead of violence every single day, every single moment, can we change this. We can’t fool ourselves by thinking it’s somebody else’s problem. The choice is yours and mine.